All About You — Day 18: Your Soul Mate
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ALL ABOUT YOU — DAY 18:
YOUR SOUL MATE
A series called “All About You!” wouldn’t be complete without the one person who sees, encourages, and helps you bring out the greatness within you that even you never imagined existed—and vice versa.
Ever heard the expression, “Behind every great man, there’s a great woman?” I’d revise it to say, “Behind every great person, there’s a great soul mate.” A soul mate is, above all, your best friend. But, a soul mate is also usually your lover; and, in many ways, he or she nourishes you by assuming parts of almost every other role that’s important to you. Someone who makes you stronger than you are by yourself, braver, calmer, more optimistic about life, and fills you with the sense that anything is possible. And, you do all of this for him/her.
BRAINSTORMING EXERCISE
1. Preparation
Clear your mind of all other thoughts. If stray thoughts not related to this exercise wander into your mind, let them drift right back out of your mind without paying any special attention to it. (If you think it’s something important that you’re afraid to forget later, just jot it down quickly and let it out of your thoughts again.)
2. Let it All Flow Freely
Use paper or the computer. Whatever is more comfortable for you. Jot down or type everything. Don’t cross out or delete anything (even if you suspect you might have already recorded it). Don’t reread your answers either (or check if you already recorded it) because doing so will break the flow. Just keep going. Ask yourself the question repeatedly and write down every answer that pops into your mind.
Complete this sentence: “My soul mate [is] …”
- a. Stay in the Present
There are probably hundreds of possible answers to this question. I list below the ones that immediately came to my mind as the answers that different people might come up with. Don’t judge yourself based on your own answers. That’s not the point of this exercise. The words you choose are merely clues to help you see and start to understand the bigger picture of who you are right now, right here—as well as who you no longer are or who you would like to be but have not become yet.
- b. Possible Answers
friendly
happy
cheery
pleasant
positive
secure
confident
kind
gentle
sweet
helpful
playful
cheerful
delightful
agreeable
smiles a lot
laughs easily
compassionate
considerate
attractive
has good posture
makes great eye contact
has fluid body movements
has pretty eyes
has a great smile
has a soft, easy laugh
has a deep, soothing voice
has sculpted-looking hands
easygoing
a great listener
a good conversationalist
fun to talk to/with
fun to be around
comfortable with silence
enjoys watching movies
enjoys reading books
enjoys walks and hikes
likes to try new things
adventurous
athletic
strong
fast
healthy
coordinated
has good instincts
lean and toned
smells great
clean
quiet
polite
romantic
a great lover
generous
sensitive
intuitive
reliable
sensible
creative
calm
clever
smart
intelligent
resourceful
has a growth-mindset
loves to learn new things
appreciates constructive criticism
offers constructive criticism
works on improving self
has a positive attitude
an optimist
a collaborator
a team player
a hard worker
honest
sincere
brave
cooperative
cautious
contemplative
introverted
faithful
trusting
patient
loving
fun
fiercely loyal
idealistic
imaginative
a daydreamer
a brainstormer
enjoys living in the moment
enjoys planning for the future
affectionate
comfortable with PDA (”public displays of affection”)
a great kisser
a great hugger
good at dancing
good at singing
likes at least some of my favorite songs, books, and movies
meets me half way on most things most of the time
my best friend
my confidante
my “teacher”
my “student”
my “mother”
my “father”
my “child”
my “baby”
my “pet”
my “therapist”
my “patient”
my “coach”
my “client”
my other half
sometimes my better half
sometimes my conscience
sometimes my common sense
sometimes the voice of reason
sometimes a faithful mirror
sometimes my mock audience
sometimes my judge, jury, and executioner (only when I ask him/her to!)
my “partner in crime”
my business partner
my life partner
will come into my life when I least expect it!
TO BE CONTINUED …
This is going to be an adventurous journey into our past, present, and future lives. None of us can be prepared for what we might find along the way. So, just sit back and enjoy the ride! Also, I hope at least some of you brave souls will share your answers, insights, and revelations in the comments below for everyone’s benefit!
When you’re done, collect your answers and keep them in a safe place. I recommend a diary. It makes a precious gift to someone you love, especially you!
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